24. Mapping Your Shoelaces


Every life is threaded with continuums—your own personal “shoelaces” of duality. These are the tensions that give shape to your days, the distinctions that help you navigate your inner and outer worlds.
Take a moment to explore the dualities that run through your own Sparksphere.

  1. Identify Your Shoelaces
    Choose one duality that feels alive for you right now.
    It might be something simple, like:
  • rest ↔ activity
  • solitude ↔ connection
  • certainty ↔ curiosity
  • comfort ↔ challenge
    Or something more personal and specific.
    Write about why this duality matters to you.
    What does each end represent in your life?
  1. Find the Stillpoint
    Imagine the center point between the two ends—the place where the tension balances rather than pulls.
  • Where is your Stillpoint within this duality?
  • What does it feel like when you’re close to it?
  • What happens when you drift away from it?
    Let yourself describe the sensation, not just the idea.
  1. Notice the Motion
    Duality creates movement.
    It gives you direction, momentum, and choice.
    Reflect on:
  • How this duality shapes your decisions
  • How it influences your perception
  • How it adds complexity or clarity to your life
    Where is the motion leading you right now?
  1. Close the Loop
    End by writing one sentence that captures the pattern you see—your own version of “1 = 2.”
    Something like:
  • “One longing becomes two possibilities.”
  • “One question becomes two paths.”
  • “One center becomes a world of distinctions.”
    Let it be simple, true, and yours.

Read more about shoelaces and duality here.