Childhood memories can become very hazy over time. Luckily, I kept a diary starting when I was about nine years old. The small red book has a strap and a lock for privacy, but luckily, I still have the key. Let’s open it up and see what life was like for me in the mid-1970’s:

 “Dear diary, I woke up, ate breakfast, ate lunch, ate dinner, then went to bed.” “School day.” “Ate lunch, ate dinner, then went to bed…”

Hmm. My entire future was being shaped, and all I wrote about was generic activities? Why?

My hazy memories are better than nothing, I suppose. I recall those in-between times when I was just playing with friends on the school playground, or milling around my back yard looking at things, or watching TV in the living room. I think I would have written about them, but it was too hard to put into words and didn’t seem significant.

Waking up, going to bed, eating and going to school were the punctuation of my day: easy to identify, easy to say. But like a sentence, punctuation alone says nothing.

Milestones in life are punctuation too. We identify with them and describe ourselves by listing them, but the picture they paint doesn’t do us justice. The in-between times, the ordinary and undefined experiences, are the true story of our lives. So why not bring them forward and highlight them?

We face the same challenge I faced as a young diarist: how can daily experiences be put into words, and what part of it even matters?

In the fractal universe framework, milestones and events are analogous to Action. We can say “I did that, that was me.” We identify with it, and that is a valid thing to do. We can communicate our identity efficiently and identify others as well.

But this is just the tip of the iceberg. We are infinitely more. Undefined life isn’t made for documentation. It is not fixed, it is functional. It is the deeper, more authentic you. You are experiencing it right now.

Take a moment to pause and look beyond the milestones you usually list when describing your life.

•    What ordinary, undefined experiences have quietly shaped who you are?

•    Where do you feel the Stillpoint of balance, the Mirror Frontier of connection, or the subtle Fusion of new insights in your daily rhythm?

•    How might your story change if you gave as much weight to these in‑between moments as you do to the milestones?

It will always be more natural to define our lives by milestones and activities, especially when communicating with others. Undefined life remains there between the lines, adding the truth and richness of who you really are.